One day I looked in the mirror and I could not say that I loved myself. I’m not talking about an egotistical, narcissistic self-love, but a basic love for who I was created to be.
We often allow outside sources like our parents, spouses, children, or society to misplace our identity.
Regardless of how I arrived there, I knew I needed to change how I viewed myself. I needed to learn how to embrace myself again.
The first step to any change is to recognize we want to change.
I knew that God, Himself, was LOVE and He loved me. He did not want me to hate myself.
As a mom, I easily wanted my children to embrace the unique individuals God had created them to be. Therefore, I too was called to love myself.
I began by looking to God and asking Him how He viewed me. After all, He knew me better than I knew myself. He loved me greater than anyone could ever begin to love me.
There’s a quote by Graham Cooke that resonates with me,”The antidote to relational abuse is always the nature of God. Who does God want to be for you? How does He see you?”
How does God see me? Where am I to get my identity from?
Along with reading the Bible, I started reading the book, “7 Habits of Highly Effective People.” This proved to be a strong catalyst in my journey.
For the next six months, I learned about being proactive, starting with the end in mind, and writing my mission statement.
I asked the Lord many questions and grew as I sought Him and His answers.
Who did God design me to be? How do I need to change my thinking to line up with His thoughts of me?
I started to identify the lies I had been speaking to myself. The ones I believed in exchange for His truth. What did God say to me and about me?
The answer is based on the eternal Word of God. He breathed life into my soul where before I had withered in despair.
I emerged with circumstances unchanged but I was different. I now faced life stronger because I was stronger in my God and who He designed me to be.
Seasons continue to come and go and new trials and hardships have stormed through, but my roots are deeper in Him and I know where wisdom and truth begin and end.
He embraces me, therefore, I can embrace myself.