Marriage Care University
Joe and Jessie are leaders in MCU, our marriage ministry at Discovery Church.
Tell us a little bit about yourselves?
We have been married for over 13 years and have 2 girls, Adison and Briley. Joe remodels foreclosed homes and I have been helping with the business and doing an occasional work in the cosmetology industry for over 15 years. For fun Joe likes to wake board on Lake Conway and started the sport when he was 18, while I (Jessica) am his cheerleader from the boat! I unfortunately am not very athletic, my passion is more along the lines of teaching and equipping others, whether it is about makeup or hair, or about Jesus.
How long have you done MCU and why do you love it?
We’ve been a part of MCU for about 5 years now and we love MCU for several different reasons: it keeps us accountable as a married couple to keep doing our best in marriage, it challenges us to do better because of the tools that we get, and we have to live it out if we expect others to. We also love creating environments where people understand that they’re not alone. The enemy loves trapping us into the lie that we are alone and we’re the only ones going through challenges.We also love the class because it is not just about more information, but it is about taking the tools home and applying them. Having a comfortable environment to share and be held accountable in.
What do you think is the biggest challenge that marriages face today?
One of the biggest challenges we all face is selfishness, especially in our society. Everyone is always ready to blame their spouse when they are not happy. People rarely consider this alternative: maybe marriage wasn’t meant to make you happier, but to make you holier? Maybe marriage was meant to get you out of your selfish mentality and refine your edges, so you can be the best version of who God created you to be.
From a man’s perspective (Joe), one of the things that most impacted me was the question, what if our relationship with our wife, reflected our relationship with Christ? Is it the same kind of relationship you would want to have with Christ? At the end of the day we know the right things to do, but we don’t always choose to do it. There is no guarantee that all marriages succeed but don’t you want to know that you gave it your best and you are left with the best version of yourself if it doesn’t? MCU is built on the philosophy that a healthy marriage starts with the individual working on himself or herself and that’s exactly what we try to do.
You’ve helped many couples, is there one that stands out?
Yes, there was one couple that was really open and honest about all their “stuff”, and we didn’t know how close they were to the edge of divorce. They had been fighting through some challenging health issues with their child and when they came in, you could tell they were together, but definitely struggling. However, by the end of the class, we began to see little gestures that had big meaning for their marriage. You could see such a difference in their marriage after the 12 weeks of MCU because most of their problems were simply miscommunicating and not knowing how to communicate the right things. Today they have a thriving marriage and they have three children and have become MCU facilitators! To think that everything could have been stolen from them makes us so grateful for MCU!
The class is built on honesty and transparency, for all the couples that are willing to put themselves out there. It’s not just for marriages that are struggling, but for marriages that just want to have more joy while learning a thing or two! Click here to learn more about Marriage Care University.